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Are you suffering from the effects of someone else's drinking? Empowered Recovery can help!


Empowered Recovery Can Help! 


For over 10 years, Empowered Recovery has been the Most Powerful and Effective nonalcoholic recovery approach available for thousands of people!


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Founder of Empowered Recovery


You are likely here because you are concerned about someone’s drinking. Perhaps you've been searching and searching, but not finding the answers you need. Perhaps you feel confused, scared, alone, helpless, and that your life is out of control. We know exactly how you feel because we were once where you are.

Empowered Recovery is a unique self-recovery approach specifically designed to acknowledge and address the aberrant dynamics of an alcoholic relationship from a nonalcoholic perspective. It is a unique recovery concept specifically developed for nonalcoholics by nonalcoholics. 

Empowered Recovery does not necessarily mean that you will leave the relationship. Empowered Recovery is about you taking your power back and getting your life back under control. The lessons you will learn from reading this site and especially our comprehensive guide book, "Alcoholic Relationship Survival Guide: What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do," and audio program, "Candid Conversations," will help you decide the best course of action for you and your family.

Reading the Survival Guide will help you to:

  • Clear your confusion

  • Realize that you are not alone

  • Gain knowledge that will alleviate your fears (knowledge cancels fear)

  • Know that you are not helpless

  • Understand to what extent you can help the alcoholic

  • Restore peace in your home

  • But most importantly, how to stop alcoholic dysfunction from ruling your life


"This is the most helpful information I've ever read, bless you for giving people access to this online. Thank you again for bringing clarity to a very confusing situation." —R  


The Survival Guide eBook is available below.

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If you are struggling with the effects of another's drinking, are you searching for answers to questions like these?

  • Is it really alcoholism or not?

  • How do I get him/her to stop drinking?

  • How do I reason with him/her when they've been drinking?

  • What can I do if he/she denies that drinking is a problem?

  • Do I have to leave him/her or can I stay?

  • Am I causing him/her to drink?

  • How are my children being affected by alcoholism?

  • How do I help my children to cope?

  • Am I codependent or an enabler?

  • How do I break the generational cycle of codependence and alcoholism to increase my children's prospects of a happy future?

  • How do I find solutions to help my relationship?

  • How do I establish and protect healthy boundaries?

  • How do I respond effectively to the things he/she says or does?

  • What can I do if I feel trapped with no way out?

  • How do I decide whether to stay or leave?

  • What steps should I take if I decide to stay?

  • What steps should I take if I decide to leave?

  • Am I alone, or have others experienced what I'm going through?

  • How do I know if the alcoholic will recover after rehab?

  • Should I do an intervention?

  • If I decide to leave, how will I make it financially? 

  • What do I do if he/she is hiding alcohol?

  • Should I tell my family and/or friends about it?

  • How do I deal with grief and loss if the relationship ends?

  • What have others done in my situation?

  • What can I do if I don't live with the alcoholic?

  • How do I handle the "Jekyll and Hyde" behavior?

  • What does it mean if their behavior is worse when they've stopped drinking?

  • How do I know if he/she is suffering from withdrawal? Is it dangerous?

  • Can the alcoholic recover without my help?

  • Is it normal to feel so alone?

  • What should I do if I fear for my safety?

  • How can I rebuild my confidence and self-esteem?

  • Will I ever have a happy relationship?

The answers to these and dozens of other questions are contained in the Alcoholic Relationship Survival Guide. You too can benefit from our 60+ years of combined experience in dealing with alcohol abuse just like the following people:


What Others Have Said About Empowered Recovery

"Empowered Recovery was the hammer that broke the wall of my denial down. Honestly." —Angela

"Absolutely the best [information] I have ever encountered to help individuals and friends understand the workings of alcoholism, the effects on family and friends and how to cope with life. The "Nonalcoholic Bill of Rights" is so true, people need to live by it daily." —Eric

"I feel like I have awakened since I found Empowered Recovery; Empowered Recovery has and is giving me strength that I didn't realize I needed." —L.W.

"I just wanted to let you know I purchased and downloaded your Guide book today, and printed it out. Could not believe how much of it related to me! It is great. I plan on finishing to read it tonight. Can't wait to share with my therapist how much I have learned! Keep up the great work. Thanks again!" —Rhonda

"Wow! I just read your powerful chapter, “Breaking the Generational Cycle,” through streams of tears. I am the nonalcoholic eldest of six daughters of an alcoholic mother. Now after reading your chapter I do want to move on. I understand it more now than ever. I hope I can break the cycle. Thank you!" —Sarah

"I stayed up until 2:00 a.m. reading the eBook and listening to the audio tapes. Both are absolutely great! This book should be required reading for all those poor souls who go to Al-Anon. It would open a lot of their eyes about staying in an alcoholic relationship for whatever reason."  —Linda

"To say thank you is a definite understatement to ER. I feel that for the first time in my life, I can actually breathe. I am an adult child of an alcoholic that has painfully tried to rewrite a past I couldn't stop from happening. I believed that I could save whomever was the new addict, to address not saving my parent in the past.

"I realized with your help the best way to save someone on a path to self destruction is to exercise first the right to save myself. I don't have to accept alcoholic behavior, as my norm. Now as I have made a choice, I realize so have they.

"This acceptance, this admission is so freeing, clarifying and enlightening, its as if the gift of sight became mine for the the first time in 40 years.

"This is truly indescribable. Thank you." —DeDe

"Hi Doug, I too am empowered from within by your efforts to inform, relate, and instruct those of us in need of Empowered Recovery. Since reading only the "What is Empowered Recovery" and "Precepts of...," I feel awash in validation for my sometimes torturous sometimes glorious codependent/alcoholic relationship; I feel waves of passionate gratefulness to have found you, your Web site, and your keenly temperate and talented inviting nature. Words cannot describe the clarity that your approach has given me thus far. Lucidity has been ethereal, and just out of reach for me for so long. I truly appreciate having found the window to your Web site, and you. Thank you." —Anne

"I have been searching for a solution; I've tried the "try to fix" for the last 2 years. So rapidly, everything was falling apart. I found it here, I can't thank you enough. I feel like I'm now in a ray of hope - I feel so good about myself. Me and my children are at a fresh start, a new beginning, a new life. I must also admit, that moment in my life was a life lesson. I continue to watch my future steps and walk away from codependency. I thank you again. We all, including you, have been blessed." —Cheryl

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