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Robin's Realm


I Love You


Roses Are Red

Violets Are Blue

Why the heck

Won’t he say?

I love you!



I look at these three little words, “I Love you.” They sure can carry some powerful feelings. How many times in your life have you longed to hear the words I love you?


You may have longed to hear them from your mom or dad. You may have longed to hear them from your kids. You may have longed to hear them from your spouse. You may have longed to hear them from your boyfriend/girlfriend.


As you may now know from reading some of my other articles, I like to question the reader. Have you said to yourself lately, “I love you”? What! Say to myself, “I love you”? You are probably thinking I am crazy and going out of my mind for asking you to do such a thing.


Well maybe about a year ago I would have said, “Yes, I am losing it.” However I have found that working through recovery, the one thing that absolutely must happen is that a person must love themselves first before they can love anyone or truly have someone love you in return.


Great just great! Love myself first! Well how the heck do I do that? In searching for answers, Doug Kelley had responded to one of my emails and he said “I have found that if I want my outside world to change, I must first change my inside world. This would be a good thought to ponder deeply.”


That was a good thought to ponder. I thought to myself, why would I want my inside world to change? I was comfortable with the way it was. Was I not? I really wasn’t but I was scared to death to change any of it!


Why should I change? I am great just the way I am. Do these remarks sound familiar? Do you find yourself hearing alcoholics say “ I don’t have a problem, the rest of the world does”?


To learn to love myself was quite a challenge. Changing my inner world took some effort. It all started for me with looking in the mirror and saying, “I am a great person. I do like myself. I am a beautiful person.”


You also are a beautiful person. We just allow society and the events that happen to us eat us alive. We lose our self-esteem. We lose our inner beauty. We start the vicious cycle of unloving ourselves. When we feel unloved and ugly, the whole rest of the world appears to be unloving and ugly.


As our self esteem lowers, we lower our standards and begin to accept behaviors and relationships that are unloving to come into our life.


I have learned that there is a lot more to “I Love You” than what I thought. When I talked with my good friend Sue from Empowered Recovery tonight, she said “Robin, really think about it; the words ‘I love you’ are misused, over used, and abused.”


Isn’t that the truth? Stop and think about it. In what ways you do you hear folks using the words “I love you”? Have you ever heard, “You are going to love this deal—0% financing for a year.…” Love a deal? Hmm... Have you sent or received an email from someone you are not that close with that is signed, “Love,” so and so? How about when someone at work says, “I just love the work you are doing for the company”?


My point is that the four letter word LOVE can mean many things. It is construed in many ways. Sue helped me understand that it is more awesome to see love than to hear love. This was another thought that made much sense to ponder.


I ask you to take time today as you read this to see LOVE in your life. Look for ways that people show you that they love you and care about you. I bet if you reflected on your day today you will see a lot of love that has been shown. I did some self reflection on my day today, and here is what I saw:


The very special man in my life got up early to snow-blow the driveway so I could get my car out to be to church on time. He told me today how extra nice my hair looked. He told me today when I was leaving to drive safe and have a safe trip. He shared a lot of special words and sentences over the week-end with me that had “love” encircled around them.


I got to spend time today with a great group of folks from a local church who said “thank you,” and that they appreciated me coming today to visit. I got to spend time with a close friend that enjoyed our time together. I got to talk to Sue tonight and she cared enough about me to talk about my articles. My cousin called today to see how I was doing and what was new in my life.


These are just a few examples of LOVE.


The lesson I learned and want to share with you is that in yearning to hear “I love you,” we may overlook the actions of love that folks are showing towards us.


With becoming healthier and changing my inner world and being with those who truly care about me, I have learned I am loved.


I leave you with this thought:


Roses are Red

Violets are Blue

There are many folks

In my life and yours that are saying

I love you!


Reach out today. Encircle yourself with positive and loving people. You are very worthy of being loved. Don’t ever think differently!




Robin Walters

January 8, 2006


I now wonder what three letter Luv means… Man this article could go on and on..!!

Hugs to you all! 


© Copyright 2006 by Robin Walters. All Rights Reserved. 

Robin Walters is an alcoholic relationship survivor and writer in New York state. Robin still longs to be a school teacher, but now satisfies that longing by sharing her life experiences in the hope that her lessons will lighten the load for others. She may be contacted at robin@empoweredrecovery.com. Read more of her writings at www.EmpoweredRecovery.com/robin .




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