When you hear
the word victim, what do you think of? Do you think of a victim from a
crime? Do you think of the employee who lost their job due to downsizing
of a company?
Do you think of
someone who received unfair justice in a court settlement? Or do you think
ask? Yes, yourself. You see I am a victim. I am a victim of my own wrong
choices I made in my life. How can we as people make ourselves victims you
It is easy. Take
a moment right now to reflect upon your life. Find a quiet spot and sit
quietly and reflect.
For those in an
alcoholic relationship or any relationship for that matter, think of the
times you have spent “checking up” on the other person. What about the
time you counted the bottles? How did you feel afterwards? My gosh he/she
drank a case since yesterday! Did it make you feel any better now that you
knew that? I can bet the answer is it made you feel worse! It did not hurt
the other person at all. It hurt you! How about when you checked the phone
log to see who he/she was calling? Did you feel any better now that you
knew? I can bet the answer is it made you feel worse! It did not hurt the
other person at all. It hurt you! How about the time you may have checked
his/her email to see who they were communicating with? Did
it make you feel any better now that you knew? I can be the answer is it
made you feel worse. It did not hurt the other person at all. It hurt you!
How about all the times you have spent wondering how you could have saved
the other person? When knowing all along, we cannot save anyone, they can
only save themselves. It did not hurt the other person. It only hurt you!
I could go on
and on with examples of life when we make ourselves a victim. We inflict
our own pain upon us. We continue to make ourselves a victim. It is a
horrible painful feeling. The tears come. The frustrations come. What have
we really resolved through all of this? Nothing! We have just caused more
Let me ask you
something. Are you not tired of being a victim? Are you not tired of being
a self inflicted victim? Oh sure. Other people cause us pain. The matter
of the truth is 99% of the time, we allow ourselves to be the victim.
You may ask, how
can I get freedom from this pain? The answer comes in a five letter word.
TRUST. Trust in yourself. Trust may not be a word that is in your
vocabulary. I encourage you to open your encyclopedia of life and add that
You have to
trust yourself. You have to trust the knowledge and wisdom you have
within. You need to make the right choices in life. The cycle of being a
victim has to stop. Once you are able to end this cycle, you will feel
such joy! You will no longer be the victim. Why continue in life, being a
victim of pain? Choose today to start living within a life of self trust.
When you do this, you will feel the peace fall upon you.
My wish for you
today as you read this, is to take the time to start being you and living
for you. It will be a decision you will never regret!